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Having Thick Skin on Twitch/Twitter

6/17/2015

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When you first start streaming and attracting an audience the feeling of having people openly support your stream and being happy every time you go live is pretty darn cool. One issue that you will run into at some point is that there will be people who do not like your stream or what it stands for. Whether it’s the layout you use, how big of a sellout you are, how annoying you are, there will be people who just don’t like what you do. Today I want to talk about dealing with these type of personalities and how being the better person will lead to turning some of these people into friends.

Kill’em With Kindness

So you’ve attracted a group of people who don’t like you. It doesn’t matter what their reason is, their mission is to publicly deface what you’re super passionate about. They will say terrible things about you on social media, they will come into your chat just to push your buttons, and bring up things to make you mad. The only way to combat these type of attacks is to fight fire with fire right? Go on an epic twitter rant about how awful these people are and how you’re being victimized! Wrong. Don’t do this. All you’re doing is ticking off the people that actually support you by stooping to the level of the people attacking you. Instead “Kill’em with kindness.” Now I just want to point out, this does not mean kill them, it simply means treat them with real kindness. 

It’s really easy to feel mistreated by people and feel you need to react in the same way, but all you’re doing is feeding the fire. When you choose to react in kindness instead of anger, people will be caught off guard. People say a lot of mean things to get a reaction that satisfies them. When you respond in the reaction that they don’t want, it challenges them to actually think about how they are acting.

A Personal Story

I’ve been in the speed running community for 3 years. It’s been a great experience with a lot of ups and downs along the way and it has also been a huge learning experience as well. I’ve made my fair share of mistakes that at the time I thought would be super beneficial to the community that ended up not being as openly received as I thought. Due to these decisions, I took a lot of flak from the community. I also received a lot of personal attacks that were pretty baseless and pretty unfair considering the intentions that I had at the time. Instead of blowing up on Twitter about the way people were reacting, I instead chose to just let it roll over. I didn’t lash out about the views of others, I instead did my best to “Kill them with kindness.” It wasn’t an overnight solution; people didn’t magically take the time to come around and give me a chance, it was a process. I kept choosing to either ignore these type of individuals, or react to them with kindness even though the way they were talking to and about me wasn’t very nice at all.

I decided to act this way and over time, people started coming up to me and apologizing for some of the things they had said or thought about me. Some of these same people that disliked me are now good friends because I chose to not respond in the same way. This process is not an overnight solution, but requires a lot of patience. Some of these relationships took years to turn around and fix, but the wait will always be worth it. 

Stay True

One of the biggest lessons I learned in life is be true to yourself and don’t be a people pleaser. When you choose to do something you’re passionate about, you will always have people doubting you and disagreeing with you. Make the decision that you’re not going to try and please everyone. This doesn’t mean you don’t listen to the advice of your friends, it just means you don’t try and make your stream so that no one gets mad at you.

One of the biggest suggestions I would give to new streamers is don’t be afraid of mistakes. You’re going to make them when you start streaming, and there will be people that will use those opportunities to bring you down. The key is to learn from them and not make them again. Sometimes people have warranted reasons to be upset with you, but it doesn’t give you an excuse to respond in anger and immaturity. Kill’em with kindness and stay true!

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4 Comments
Assar Gee link
6/18/2015 11:47:53 pm

Killing 'em with kindness is the ultimate way to deal with negative viewers, I feel it's effective and doesn't give into what they want.

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Cyrus Lotuski link
6/19/2015 01:59:28 pm

Alright, pie. I like what you're saying, but sometimes I just don't know what to say to people like that. can you give an example of what you would say to someone who comes into your channel and starts trashing you and your stream? would be appreciated. Thanks.

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Launcelot deVault link
7/29/2015 06:22:18 am

I have used this strategy every time and it always works, either they change their mind or they eventually lose interest. I have lots of examples but they all consist of not arguing with them and not letting them bother you. If they attacked my other viewers they would get banned and reported by my mods, otherwise I would talk to them. They were.... the Grifts they are infamous in my stream they made atleast 20 or 30 new accounts so that they could keep chatting mostly flaming hostile and toxic comments things like go suck your dogs dick and die, I hope your dad rapes you at night and stuff like that.I would respond with silly responses or just be nice in general. Such as I would but he is neutered so he's not interested!!! or thanks for the concern regarding my home life! and thanks for joining my stream I appreciate the support. when people say do you suck dick faggot? I reply only big hairy ones!!! (I am openly heterosexual with a girlfriend) but it makes people laugh cause I say it in the goofiest way possible. It also goes with the kind of stream I am making. It's a mature stream with very unique eccentric fun times. But if you don't want to roll with it, just say obnoxiously sweet things. Like if they say go kill your self retard. Reply thanks user for watching my stream I hope you're having a great day! At first they will stay but they lose interest quickly if you don't get bothered.

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Gaming_is_Art88
9/13/2016 12:47:27 pm

Yes great read! Kill em with kindness !

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